In 1969 the Swiss-born psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross conceptualized five stages in facing terminal illness: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Further, the five Kübler-Ross stages are but general reactions to many situations involving loss, not necessarily dying, and do not have a determined duration. Pride is not one of these stages.

Denial is the first of the five stages of grief. It helps us to survive the loss. Life makes no sense. We are in a state of shock and denial. We go numb.

Anger - There are many other emotions under anger but anger is the emotion we are most used to managing. Anger may give temporary structure to the nothingness of loss.

Bargaining - Before a loss, it seems like one will do anything if only our loved one would be spared. After a loss, bargaining may take the form of a temporary truce. We remain in the past, trying to negotiate our way out of the hurt.

Depression - After bargaining, our attention moves squarely into the present. Empty feelings present themselves, and grief enters our lives on a deeper level, deeper than we ever imagined. This depression is not a sign of mental illness but the appropriate response to a great loss.

Acceptance is often confused with the notion of being “all right” with what has happened. We begin to live again, but we cannot do so until we have given grief its time.

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