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How should I have a positive attitude in life?

Listen to good music.

Music definitely improves your mood, and it's a really simple thing to do.

Don't watch television passively.

There have been studies that show that people who watch TV less are more happy: http://lifehacker.com/5095892/happy-people-watch-less-tv-study-shows

Which leads me to my next point:

Don't do anything passively.

Whenever I do something, I like to ask myself if, at the end of the day, I would be content saying that I had spent time doing it.

(This is why I block sites I find myself wasting too much time on. I enjoy them, but they're just not worth it when I could be learning something new, or working on projects I care about.)

Time is incredibly valuable.

Be aware of negativity

It's very easy for a community that considers itself intelligent to tend towards negativity, because criticizing is seen as a signaling mechanism to indicate that you're more intelligent than the person you corrected. I started noticing that this was irrationally frustrating me - it's one of those things you'll stay up all night thinking about. So I started gradually weaning myself off of these communities.

Make time to be alone.

I initially said "take time just to be alone." I changed it because if you don't ensure you can take a break, you'll surely be interrupted.

Being with other people is important to be happy, but I don't include it in this list because nearly everyone finds time to talk with friends. On the other hand, spending time just with yourself is almost considered taboo.

Take some time to figure out who you are.

Exercise.

This is the best way to improve your immediate happiness.

Exercise provably makes you happy. Try and go on a run. You'll hate yourself while doing it, but the gratification that you get towards the end vastly outweighs the frustration of the first few attempts. I can't say enough good things about exercise.

This isn't just idle conjecture: HowStuffWorks "Is there a link between exercise and happiness?"

Exercising is also fantastic because it gives you time alone.

Have projects.

Having a goal, and moving towards it, is a key to happiness.

You have to realize though that achieving the goal is not necessarily what makes you happy - it's the process. When I write music, I write it because writing is inherently enjoyable, not because I want to get popular (as if!).

Take time to do the things you enjoy.

That's very general, so let me give you a good example.

One of the things that has really changed my life was finding small communities centered around activities I enjoy. For instance, I like writing music, so I'm part of a community that meets up to write a song for an hour every week. I love the community. I've also written a song every week, 37 weeks in a row, which has gradually moved me towards larger goals and makes me feel very satisfied.

Change your definition of happiness.

Another reason I think I'm more happy than other people is because my definition of happiness is a lot more relaxed than most people's. I don't seek for some sort of constant euphoria; I don't think it's possible to live like that. My happiness is closer to stability.

Ignore things that don't make you happy.

I get varying reactions to this one.

The argument goes "if something is making you unhappy, then you should find out why and improve it, not ignore it." If you can do that, great. But on the other hand, there's no reason to mope about a bad score on a test.

There's another counterargument: perhaps you're moping because your brain is trying to work out how to improve. In fact, this is the key purpose of depression: Depression’s Upside - NYTimes.com

I can think of examples that go both ways. I remember, for instance, when I was debating a year or two ago and my partner and I would lose a round, I would mull over what we had done wrong for a long time. In that way, I got immensely better at debate (and public speaking in general - did you know debate has amazing effects on your public speaking ability? But now I really digress).

On the other hand, there's no way that mulling over how dumb you were for missing that +x term on the left hand side will make you better at math. So stop worrying about it, and go practice math instead.

Find a way to measure your progress, and then measure it.

Video games are addicting for a reason: filling up an experience bar and making it to the next level is immensely satisfying. I think that it would be really cool if we could apply this concept to the real world.

I put this near the bottom of the list because, unfortunately, this hasn't been done too often in the real world -- startup idea, anyone? :) So you would have to do it yourself, which is difficult when you don't even know how much you've progressed.

For a while, I kept a log of the runs I had taken, and my average speed. It was really cool to see my improvement over the weeks. (Also, I was exercising. Combining the two was fantastic for boosting happiness.)

Realize that happiness is an evolutionary reward, not an objective truth.

It's easy to see that this is correct, but this is at the bottom of the list for a reason.


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9 Comments
ninakamwene
Thank you for sharing. Joy comes from within, and happiness from without, as such; the choice to be joyful is yours, and yours only to choose. "Awareness creates choice, resistance creates pain" Bill Harris. Be safe and well. Merci.
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Jul 14, 2020 2:17AM
RUNAMUCK
Tell me who your friends are & I'll tell you who you are! Surround yourself with people who are positive and aspire to higher ideals. I'd also suggest volunteering.
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Jul 10, 2020 11:39PM
jacksc
A lot more words, and not much more substance. Still some will benefit from the remarks. Martin Nicholls,
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Jul 9, 2020 12:12PM
Ilias Tsiabardas
I am all most 75 years old 5 ,9 and 178 pounds I am walking and jog 9,5 to 10 km a day and I feel great about it
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Jul 8, 2020 9:43PM
Susan Golebiewski
Great way to define happiness.❤
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Jul 8, 2020 9:30PM
Kermit Stanton
Quit watching the news 30 yrs ago!!
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Jul 8, 2020 8:02PM
Marienne Litolff
I realised many years ago that in life we have two choices - to be happy or to be unhappy. I tried them both and decided to be happy because it feels better. So even when bad stuff happens I’m positive at the least and basically happy no matter what. I recommend it!
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Jul 8, 2020 7:24PM
Lorna Desouza
All great points you have mentioned. Positivity is very important in life. We have to fill our mind with positive input. Always be nice to everyone. Pay attention to the good. Have a lovely evening and love
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Jul 8, 2020 5:47PM
Veronics Moss
Wonderful stories and I do agree some of it do already. 😍
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Jul 8, 2020 4:34PM

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